Hugh Jackman Ostracized for Being a Cheater?

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Is Hugh Jackman getting the cold shoulder by some in Hollywood for being a cheater? He’s blaming his ex-wife for the less than warm welcome he and his former-affair-partner-now-girlfriend Sutton Foster are receiving.

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According to gossip rag StyleCaster things aren’t rosy for Schmoopie couple Hugh Jackman and Sutton Foster. Check out the headline:

Hugh Jackman Reportedly โ€˜Blamesโ€™ Ex-Wife For Hollywood โ€˜Turning Against Himโ€™ After Claim Nicole Kidman Avoided Him at Met Gala

“The actor has become ‘increasingly angry’ over his isolation.’

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Oh my. I smell a conspiracy of Aussie Chumps.

Apparently, Jackman’s ex, Deborra-Lee Furness has not taken her betrayal and obsolescence in the proper spirit. She told people about it. In fact, you’ll earlier recall how Jackman was allegedly upset that she actually used the word “betrayal.” Deb, why can’t you recognize you are an expired wife appliance and move gently toward the scrap heap? Sure, there was some overlap with the much younger Sutton Foster, but it’s not uncommon to get a new refrigerator before you’ve hauled the old one away. Why this fuss?

The appliance has friends.

Nicole Kidman, who knows a few things about being chumped, is sticking with Deb.

StyleCaster reports:

Hugh Jackman is none too happy about the alleged isolation heโ€™s facing in Hollywood right now, and heโ€™s reportedly placing the blame on his ex-wife,ย Deborra-Lee Furness.

Hugh, she didn’t make your dick wander. You did that.

โ€œHughโ€™s becoming increasingly angry over the feeling that more and more people in Hollywood are quietly turning against him,โ€ a source toldย Globeย in May 2026. โ€œHe blames Deb for it 100% and says thereโ€™s been a steady drip of poison behind the scenes from her and her camp.โ€

Or maybe you’re just getting older and washed up and Hollywood wants a new shiny thing. I’m sure Deb has absolutely no idea how that feels.

His former friends have ditched him.

The actorโ€™s also convinced that friends like Naomi Watts, Russell Crowe, andย Nicole Kidmanย are โ€œditching him for Deb.โ€

But you have Sutton! Why do you need friends when you could spend an evening with Sutton doing vocal scales? She has perfect pitch! Younger, perkier pitch.

This comes after the 2026 Met Gala, where Kidman reportedly avoided Jackman and his new girlfriend, actress Sutton Foster. According to industry insider Rob Shuter, the Oscar-winningย actressโ€”who was a co-chair for the nightโ€”is โ€œfirmly Team Debโ€ and believes Deb was โ€œdeeply hurtโ€ over how her decades-long marriage with Jackman ended.

Did she avoid you, Hugh? Or did she have more important things to do as co-chair of the Oligarch’s ball? Like surround Sutton’s place setting with pee bottles. Why are you so paranoid? You got an invitation. If she really wanted to mess with you, I imagine she could use her powers to cull the guest list. But maybe it’s more fun to snub you. I don’t know.

Nicole isn’t pretending.

Nicole isnโ€™t interested in pretending otherwise just because Hugh showed up with a new woman on his arm,โ€ a source toldย Shuterโ€™sย Naughty But Niceย Substack. โ€œDebโ€™s โ€˜betrayalโ€™ comment was not forgotten in Hollywood. A lot of people close to her feel Hugh did her wrong, and Nicole is one of the friends who has stayed incredibly protective.โ€

Well, good for Nicole. I’m sure she knows a few things about f*ckwits after divorcing Tom Cruise and Keith Urban.

Since then, theย Deadpool & Wolverineย star has reportedly demanded that his ex-wife โ€œstop stirring the pot,โ€ especially as the situation is also said to be affecting Fosterโ€™s reputation.

I think Sutton Foster affected her own reputation when she “dated” a married man and father.

โ€œHeโ€™s very protective of Sutton and says itโ€™s incredibly unfair that sheโ€™s being frozen out and judged by people who used to happily socialize with her,โ€ an insider explained toย Globe. โ€œHe says things have spiraled way beyond a normal breakup now and turned into a coordinated effort to isolate them socially. Heโ€™s furious and says heโ€™s no longer prepared to just sit back quietly and take it.โ€

Everyone! Stop judging them!

It’s so unfair. And so coordinated! Kind of like… cheating on your partner.


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LongTimeChump
LongTimeChump
25 days ago

Oh I love this! F-wad has to deal with consequences and blames his ex while protecting schmoopie. They are both getting what they deserve.

SortofOverIt
SortofOverIt
24 days ago
Reply to  LongTimeChump

“and blames his ex ”

That part is so interesting to me. He blames her for “stirring the pot” but did she stir the pot or simply talk to friends about what happened to her?

It’s that same adage “if you don’t want people writing books about the bad things you did, don’t DO bad things.” But it has the extra layer of “don’t tell people what me and schmoopie did bc then they won’t like us!” It is not Deborah’s job to protect the two of them.

I would be surprised if most of Hollywood shunned him, but Nicole is recently chumped herself so I believe SHE would. Especially if she already knew and liked the wife.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  SortofOverIt

Yep. “It’s not what I did, it’s your reaction to it!”

OutButNotDown
OutButNotDown
25 days ago

I am glad to see this and would love, love, love it if MORE cheaters and their APs were ostracized instead of getting away with the murder of a marriage/marriages and skipping off into the sunset.

Moving0n
Moving0n
25 days ago
Reply to  OutButNotDown

Idk why, but this made me think of how many serial killers also live double lives with a sexual basement.

You’re right, though. Too many people are quick to replace and explain away a Cheater, replacing a chump with AP, because it’s too uncomfortable for them to acknowledge the truth out loud.

Anita
Anita
25 days ago

I couldnโ€™t be more disappointed. Hugh had a fan in me. Itโ€™s good to see karma do itโ€™s thing with both of them.

Hope49
Hope49
22 days ago
Reply to  Anita

Yup! I used to like Hugh Jackman too and was intrigued that he had been married for years to Deborah. Such a rare story in Hollywood, right? Actors get bonus interest points from me so when I hear about a new movie etc., I am more apt to watch. So, I have no interest in watching his movie about the Neil Diamond impersonator. It is the same thing with singers. I won’t listen to Bon Jovi anymore and just turn off his songs on the radio.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  Anita

I haven’t gone to see his new movie, and I will no longer watch any movie with him in it. Or his side piece.

Rebel13
Rebel13
23 days ago

You didn’t miss anything, it was sheep dung.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
23 days ago
Reply to  Rebel13

Good one!

Daughter_of_a_Chump
Daughter_of_a_Chump
25 days ago
Reply to  Anita

Kind of like: actions. have. consequences.

Adelante
Adelante
25 days ago

If only the politicos follow suit and shun the cheaters and abusers in the political sphere!

2xchump
2xchump
24 days ago
Reply to  Adelante

Who would be left in office then?

susie lee
susie lee
25 days ago

He’s not going to take it anymore. Lol, good luck with that.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  susie lee

I wonder what he thinks he can do about it? This story from a “source” just draws attention to the situation. It would be better to maintain a dignified silence and let the talk die down. #StreisandEffect

But, he’s a FW, and image management is all important. Is planting stories from “sources” some kind of PR effort? Not well thought out, IMHO.I don’t think casting blame on his chumped ex is going to help anything.

susie lee
susie lee
24 days ago

Yep, I don’t follow celebs, but in my view I would advise any chump to stay dignified; but she has a right to speak about what happened, and certainly to talk to the people she is close to. She doesn’t owe either of them any more consideration than they gave her.

Him complaining just makes him look worse.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
23 days ago
Reply to  susie lee

MUCH worse.

Stacy DaSilva
Stacy DaSilva
25 days ago

This stinks to high heaven like PDF PAL Alan Dershowitz complaining about being frozen out of Cape Cod Brahmin circles.

Itโ€™s called a shunning, Hugh. Itโ€™s a social consequence. People donโ€™t like what you did and who you did it with and they donโ€™t want to spend time with you. Sorry you arenโ€™t as splendid as in your Broadway Dressing Room Schmoopie Bubble.

Cam
Cam
23 days ago
Reply to  Stacy DaSilva

Cheaters have a god complex and are truly shocked when they discover they are not, in fact, immune to consequences.

My ex spent years freaking out when the community shunned him and was outraged nobody cared about his excuses or denial. These people are freaks.

Eirene
Eirene
24 days ago
Reply to  Stacy DaSilva

Good to see you contribute, Luziana. Havenโ€™t seen your poignant comments in a while!

PrincipledLife
PrincipledLife
25 days ago

It is astonishing that with all his resources he can’t find a single therapist who will slap him across the face, tell him to stop whining, stand up straight and accept the consequences of his actions.

KrissyJ
KrissyJ
24 days ago
Reply to  PrincipledLife

The thing is, Hugh was seeing a therapist for a couple of years before, and then after the breakup. He has stated that it changed his life. I think he may have realized thru therapy that there were issues with the marriage. People are being way too judgemental about this. People divorce all the time.

Kate
Kate
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

I think youโ€™re lost hun.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Is that you, Sutton?

Kate
Kate
24 days ago

๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

PrincipledLife
PrincipledLife
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Snort!

Ruby Vee
Ruby Vee
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

The issue isn’t divorce. The issue is cheating. If you’re unhappy in your marriage, end the marriage before getting with someone else. Getting with someone else while married is called “CHEATING.” That’s a betrayal.

I suspect you’re on the wrong website. You need the one that advertises “You can save your marriage for $699.99!”

Archer
Archer
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Spoken like a true FW/OW

OMG has Sutton Foster found this website?
ROFLMAO

Chumplet
Chumplet
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

KrissyJ, do you know what website you are on?

Himt: Itโ€™s for people recovering from the betrayal of being cheated on.

FYI_
FYI_
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Divorce is not the problem. Cheating is the problem. If there are “issues” in a marriage that aren’t solvable, you divorce and THEN you start dating. Why do you think his ex used the word “”betrayal?”
You may be on the wrong site if you think that’s no biggie.

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
24 days ago
Reply to  FYI_

Nicely said FYI_ ๐Ÿ™

OneChumpAhead
OneChumpAhead
25 days ago

Maybe it’s just me, but responding to mild social sanctions with anger rather than humility is a sign that they were right to freeze you out. May you have the time you deserve, Hugh.

2xchump
2xchump
24 days ago
Reply to  OneChumpAhead

He’s a cry baby

hush
hush
25 days ago

Well done shunning the bastards, Nicole Kidman!! Brava!!

Naomi Watts, however, is married to cheater Billy Crudup. The same CRUDup who cheated on a pregnant Mary-Louise Parker with Claire Danes. I donโ€™t think Watts judges cheaters the way Hugh thinks Watts does. She probably just canโ€™t fucking stand him. ๐Ÿ˜†

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
24 days ago
Reply to  hush

๐Ÿคฃ

Elizabeth Lee
Elizabeth Lee
25 days ago

Narcissists are not comfortable dealing with the consequences of their bad acts. It makes them all pissy. Poor baby.

It’s nice to see celebrities standing for good morals. Tracy, I think you have been a big part of changing the narrative on cheating.

OutButNotDown
OutButNotDown
25 days ago
Reply to  Elizabeth Lee

๐Ÿ’ฏ

Rensselaer
Rensselaer
25 days ago

Oh no! Is some one losing control of his nice guy narrative?! I’m dealing with this right now. Increasingly desperate attempts to subtlety or not so subtlety, depending on his audience, discredit the truth. My favorite so far is:
“She probably told you the truth, but she twisted it to make herself look better.”
After years of therapy, manipulation remains one his defining personality traits.

Archer
Archer
25 days ago
Reply to  Rensselaer

It is in fact one of the ONLY stable traits of a narcissistic personality disordered POS

ChumpInSunlight
ChumpInSunlight
25 days ago

Just the typical โ€œitโ€™s not what I did, itโ€™s your reaction that is the problemโ€ cheater attitude

Archer
Archer
25 days ago

Celebrities aren’t normies and Hollywood and media have no problem with Bezos and blow up side piece Lauren so I am cynical about any actual freezing.

In true FW fashion he’s probably exaggerating 1000% some small slight, same way our FW play sad sausage over small inconveniences post DDay while we chumps were crying dying on the bathroom floor. To a narcissist any little criticism is a BIGLY BIG DEAL since their only empathy is for themselves.

I suspect Sutton is not famous or well liked enough or rich enough to pull off the Lauren Sรกnchez act.

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
24 days ago
Reply to  Archer

“…while we chumps were crying dying on the bathroom floor.”

This struck a nerve, Archer… hit the nail on the head and tears flow again for that time. Thank you for that succinct description. Absolutely true. ๐Ÿ˜”

Imtired
Imtired
25 days ago

Who knows if this is all sensationalized and made up to sell stories? But if not serves em right. Very narcissistic to blame others and play the victim after you lie and cheat. Its not because of their actions its because his ex wife didn’t play along with the whole conscious uncoupling BS. Sorry Hugh, you may be hollywood royalty but you dont control the narrative on this one.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  Imtired

This smells to me like a story planted by his publicist. Or maybe the side piece’s publicist, in an attempt to control the narrative. I don’t think it will work.

Cam
Cam
23 days ago

Boy, if this is the story a publicist wanted us to see, you can only imagine how bad the real story is. Jackman already sounds like a jackass.

LookingForwardsToTuesday
LookingForwardsToTuesday
24 days ago

Funny old thing, if you act like a d*ck, people will work out that you are a d*ck and will treat you like (I would clutch my pearls about now if I were partial to wearing them) a d*ck.

Mr Jackman …. may I introduce you to your consequences?

LFTT

OHFFS
OHFFS
24 days ago

๐Ÿผ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿผ ๐Ÿ˜ญ
Amazing how these trash bags think they can betray their spouses in the most humiliating way possible and that’s perfectly fair, but their spouses talking about it is unfair.
I wish he would be shunned for life, but I doubt that will happen. It will be a short term thing. It always is.

Chumpty Dumpty
Chumpty Dumpty
24 days ago

Ever since the Gilmore Girls reunion show aired, all I can think of now when I think of Sutton Foster is how someone in charge at Gilmore Girls clearly just lost their head and fangirled and let the boring part with Sutton go painfully on and on past all reason and good judgment. She and Hugh Jackman are both like a big can of air.

FYI_
FYI_
24 days ago
Reply to  Chumpty Dumpty

Amen! I never understood his appeal. Also, let us note that Foster was also married, with a 7-year-old daughter.

Squeaks
Squeaks
24 days ago

Heโ€™s blaming his ex-wife for the less than warm welcome he and his former-affair-partner-now-girlfriend Sutton Foster are receiving.

Of course he is. Cheater mental gymnastics 101

My abuse wasn’t the problem… the problem is that you told people what I actually said and did!

Ok Hugh.

The bewilderment is just so classic and so ridiculous. Like “I just gave you an STI and knocked up my mistress and ditched you and our children to shack up with her, abandoned all financial responsibility, and have continued to use the kids as pawns to keep you properly triangulated… I fail to understand your hostility. You’re just being a bitch for no reason. You need to get over it.”

Like, if you genuinely cannot understand my disinclination to center your whims, especially post-discard, bring in the conservatorship because you’re clearly suffering some kind of cognitive decline.

Cam
Cam
23 days ago
Reply to  Squeaks

My abuse wasnโ€™t the problemโ€ฆ the problem is that you told people what I actually said and did!

LOL my ex insisted he didn’t do anything wrong, so I shared my story with people. If you did nothing wrong, then there’s no harm in telling, right? It says a lot that people were absolutely horrified by the basic facts, with no editorializing on my part whatsoever.

Those people told everyone else in the community (with my blessing), and everybody shunned my ex, who was pissed when he realized how badly his lies held up in the light of public opinion.

ChumpyGirlKC
ChumpyGirlKC
24 days ago

“Itโ€™s so unfair. And so coordinated! Kind of likeโ€ฆ cheating on your partner.”

Touche! Great one, Tracy.

Woah is me, the unjustness of it all!

FW’s…what are you gonna do with them? Poor misunderstood innocent creatures!

ELX
ELX
24 days ago

I had a boyfriend like this onceโ€”he was using me for social acceptance and then was shocked to discover when it ended that โ€˜ourโ€™ friends were my friends and I was liked and he was tolerated because he was with me. If true, Jackman is making himself and the Broadway star with no Hollywood profile utterly ridiculous.

Cam
Cam
23 days ago
Reply to  ELX

I still remember when Jackman made it big 25 years ago, as a little no-name theater actor from Australia. Sounds like he bought into his own hype and got a chip on his shoulder.

damnitfeelsbadtobeachumpster
damnitfeelsbadtobeachumpster
24 days ago

consequences, consequences.

the other thing that Hugh may want to consider is that people just don’t like him? i mean, it’s possible. i’ve often thought he “tries too hard” and people often don’t like that in the competitive world of showbiz.

evolving
evolving
24 days ago

The natural consequences are here. There is no revenge or backstabbing, just a natural aversion to someone who demonstrated he would stab you in the back without a second thought. For me, Hughโ€™s SADZ feels especially satisfying due to my FW’s physical resemblance to Hugh. The movie Son in which Hugh played the cheater was surreal to watch because of some parallels to my own situation. I feel bad for the creators of the movie, who chillingly portrayed the emptiness of rewards that cheating and dumping bring. Their ally in the project (Hugh) did not understand the project and has now stained it with his own sorry real life antics. Iโ€™m guessing they would not have cast him now. But he would blame that on Deb.

2xchump
2xchump
24 days ago

My #2 ExHC went church to church seeking those who would praise his 22 year younger foreign OW and throw me under the bus. Several did support him and swoon over my replacement, attending his wedding…but many stayed true to me. The few that were true are so highly valued by me as I saw their light and courage.

I am one to follow that course as I see and avoid the cheaters I know who come into church with their newbies. I can always tell by their grins and touchy feely new women- as compared to how they sat with former wife and kids. 2 feet apart. Its a matter of character and courage to snup the cheaters. I do my best but they are thicker than thieves.
Go Nicole and others..let the cry babies cry..

KrissyJ
KrissyJ
24 days ago

You’re all being awful. First of all, Nicole was literally seated right next to Hugh at the Met. This is all BS! Hugh is not being isolated. He’s extremely well-loved in the industry.

PrincipledLife
PrincipledLife
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Hi Sutton Foster:

Good luck with your “well-loved” Jackass and see you here in a couple years. We’ll keep a seat warm for you.

happy and free
happy and free
24 days ago
Reply to  PrincipledLife

๐Ÿ˜‚โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

You sound like you haven’t been cheated on? The pain is indescribable, unfathomable.
You think WE are being awful? You don’t think cheating is “being awful”? You don’t think abandoning your wife, children (c.h.i.l.d.r.e.n.!!!) Is “being awful”, these people you made commitments to and who committed to you?
You think WE are being awful. ๐Ÿค”

I’m actually impressed CN has been remarkably restrained!๐Ÿ˜†

Orlando
Orlando
17 days ago

Youโ€™re right, too restrained. P-I-ZZ off, cheater apologists!!!

Mr Wonderfuls Ex
Mr Wonderfuls Ex
24 days ago

I donโ€™t waste my breath on trolls. I think every so often an AP wanders in here thinking there will be sympathy for FWs with no morals.

Orlando
Orlando
17 days ago

๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘ definitely an AP & an excellent point. APโ€™s will do death defying acrobats to justify their low to no morals.

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
24 days ago

๐Ÿ‘
๐Ÿ™
โ™ฅ๏ธ

FYI_
FYI_
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Sincere question — are you friends with him? I think the commenters here see it from the point of view of Deborah Lee Furness, who flat out said she was betrayed. People here believe her. His behavior — the affair, the pap walks — seems to indicate that he has a mean streak.

A 7-year-old girl had her family blown up. That’s what people here are reacting to.

KrissyJ
KrissyJ
24 days ago

I’m sorry, but I’m reading all the comments and I can’t believe how extreme and cruel they are. Hugh and Deb were married for 25+ years while he was an international movie star. The temptations for him must’ve have been insane, yet he stuck with her all these years. Hugh has stated that he started seeing a therapist several years ago, and that it really changed his life. As he’s said, he had “Olympic-level” people pleasing issues, that even extended to his closest family. I think perhaps Deb didn’t like it when he stopped acquiesing to her all the time, and it may have damaged their relationship. After the “betrayal” statement was released by Deb, she then backtracked and said something like she didn’t necessarily mean to insinuate that Hugh had an affair, but that she felt betrayed that he ended their relationship. I think people are being way too hard on Hugh. He’s always been a really good man. Sometimes marriages end…for good reason. Others seem to be projecting their own issues onto Hugh, which is unfair. Also, Hugh and Sutton are an amazing pair. Besides their crazy on-stage chemistry, they also co-teach at Ball State University in Indiana. The students find them to be so kind, generous, and down-to-earth. Everyone involved in this situation deserves some grace.

FYI_
FYI_
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

Again, Krissy — are you friends with them? Do you know them? I am not sure how you know he’s “always been a really good man.” You say that others are projecting their own issues onto him, but isn’t it major projection to say that their marriage ended for a good reason? Who among us knows that?? Deborah sure doesn’t think so. Sutton’s husband and 7-year-old child may not think so either.

At minimum, please understand that this site is not the place to say that a cheater and OW are “amazing.” They are demonstrably not kind nor generous, and I base that on their behavior, not my opinions. Right after the fires in LA, he and Sutton absolutely called the paparazzi so they could be photographed making out. They are in their 50s. If they’re so amazing, why do they need it publicized? This is not the behavior of people who care — about their spouses of many years OR their children OR about people in the LA community whose homes were literally smouldering.

But, hey! — they co-teach and have crazy chemistry! Honestly, putting aside any emotion, your argument just doesn’t hold up. Can I tell you about “extreme and cruel,” as you put it? Chumps on this board often hear about their cheaters’ amazing chemistry — while trying to find new housing and help their traumatized children and get tested for STDs. Please. I am kindly asking you to be aware of all sides of this situation, and to understand that cheating is devastating and never justifiable.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago
Reply to  KrissyJ

No, the FW and his side piece absolutely don’t deserve any “grace.” They deserve all the consequences that land on them. Including, quite possibly, a lack of work.

Last edited 24 days ago by Daughterofachump
FormerlyKnownAs
FormerlyKnownAs
24 days ago

Theyโ€™re so predictable. My ex expected to walk out into the world, proudly holding hands with schmoopie and everyone would accept her, cheer and celebrate his new life. But when everyone thought he was an a$$h0le instead and wanted nothing to do with either of them, he seemed so shocked and hurt. It doesnโ€™t matter he stole all our money and spent it on h00krs, was a bad dad, ruined our business- no! Everyone was suppose to say, โ€œOh well, now youโ€™re happy mate and thatโ€™s all that matters. Yay!โ€ So of course my ex blames me. Itโ€™s all my fault that no one respects him (or her). Itโ€™s also my fault his career has gone down the tubes. These FWs are so dull.

20th Century Chump
20th Century Chump
24 days ago

I think it’s generally unwise to get too invested in media narratives about celebrities. For one thing, we all know the entertainment media is all-too-willing to exaggerate and even invent nonsense. I’ve always liked Hugh Jackman, and am naturally disappointed that he had an affair before the dissolution of his marriage. I’m also not sympathetic if he’s bad-mouthing his ex for any chill he’s experiencing from friends they had in common.

If the marriage wasn’t working for him, it would have been far better for him to have initiated a split before getting involved with Sutton Foster. So, yes, that’s a moral lapse, and it does diminish him in my eyes. I am guessing that early trauma (abandonment by his mother) left its mark on him, and that damage has affected his life. I’m glad he’s getting therapy. But he’s seemed to be standup guy in many ways over the years, and apparently had not been a guy with a roving eye before this instance.

I know it’s not a popular stance in this community, but I’m inclined to give him a little grace. He’d be wise to take his lumps (snubbing) without complaining (Sutton Foster knowingly got involved with a married man, so she very much can take her lumps, too), and he should focus on doing good work and behaving with kindness and integrity going forward. I believe in second (but not third or more) chances, on a case-by-case basis. And yes, I’ve been burned when I’ve selectively granted second chances (in relationships, friendships, and in the workplace), but I’ve generally not regretted doing so.

FYI_
FYI_
24 days ago

Would love to take a poll of the number of chumps on this board who were abandoned by a parent, or worse, and did NOT respond by cheating on their spouse 50 years later.
โ€œGive him graceโ€ is RIC talk. Please understand that I am not saying chumps need to stay angry โ€” most of us heal โ€” but โ€œgive him a second chanceโ€ is a REALLY devastating thing for a person to hear post-betrayal. โ€œBut theyโ€™ve always been so niceโ€ is the kind is isolating mind-f0ck that CL is trying to combat.

20th Century Chump
20th Century Chump
22 days ago
Reply to  FYI_

I am not saying that his wife should give him a second chance, even if it were a possibility–not at all. I think it’s perfectly fine that she publicly described it as a betrayal, which it was. I have tremendous sympathy for her, and I think it’s fine for people who have been friends with both Jackman and Furness to ice Jackman out. And I think Jackman should take his lumps for those reasonable consequences without complaint (and not defend Sutton Foster) when it happens.

I’m simply saying that I think there is a spectrum of bad behavior, and we’ve heard a lot about some of the truly awful end of that spectrum in this group. My own personal experience as a chump is at the less-awful end of that spectrum, but it certainly was a terrible experience and left a mark on my life. I’m also not saying that abandonment by a parent is an excuse for bad behavior later in life. I was speculating that early abandonment by his mother might have played into the dynamics of Hugh Jackman’s marriage, partly because it’s my impression he has generally not been a globally narcissistic f*wit in other aspects of his life. I could be wrong, and if I learn from reliable sources that he is a globally narcissistic f*wit I will revise my already-diminished opinion of him accordingly.

But the bottom line for me is, because these are people the public doesn’t personally know, I’m surprised how worked up people get based on bits and pieces they read/hear from the entertainment media, which isn’t exactly a bastion of reliable information. Personally, I have only so much energy/anger I can harness in a day, and I’m trying to focus it on stuff I know to be egregiously and verifiably terrible, like the felon in the White House and his minions/enablers.

FYI_
FYI_
18 days ago

I hear you, I really do. And I agree that the entertainment media is not at all a bastion of reliable information. But it’s for just that reason that I don’t believe he is, or probably ever was, a “stand-up guy.”

I also get what you’re saying about people getting worked up over celebrities. However, I think many chumps have been told ad nauseam to “give a little grace” to destructive people. It’s never the cheater who is told to be graceful. It’s the chump who is asked whether their cheater is “verifiably terrible,” as you put it. Was the betrayal egregious enough? You see how that can be devastating for any chump to hear?

Trust me, I do not ever want to be part of any hive mind, on any subject, but I do believe CL’s position on how cheating is viewed in our culture. I do think it’s important not to repeat or contribute to the fallacies around cheating — whether it’s by a celebrity or an in-law or a co-worker. Chumps have a hard enough time combatting apologists all around them; they don’t need to read about it too.

Spirits0027
Spirits0027
24 days ago
Reply to  FYI_

Forgive me, but that โ€œtheyโ€™ve always been niceโ€ hits too close to home and toes the line for abuse apologist bs. Thatโ€™s literally the type of crap people tell you when they only see the shiny image that they show to everyone. Of course they were niceโ€ฆ until they werenโ€™t.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago

No. No grace – CONSEQUENCES.

TheArtOfChumping
TheArtOfChumping
24 days ago

I read on Vanity Fair that Hugh and Sutton have been seen teaching musical theatre at Ball State University in Muncie, Indiana. I am a Midwest girl myself, so I am not dissing the Hoosier state. But if you were born in Sydney and live in New York and Los Angeles, I can imagine that being stuck with Schmoopie in Muncie, IN might give you some extra sadz too to add to the sadz of being a FW dealing with consequences.

Dontfeellikedancin
Dontfeellikedancin
24 days ago

Oh this is brilliant:
“Or maybe youโ€™re just getting older and washed up and Hollywood wants a new shiny thing. Iโ€™m sure Deb has absolutely no idea how that feels.”

CL, long after Tuesday I take great joy in your wickedly funny sense of justice.

Daughterofachump
Daughterofachump
24 days ago

Good for Ms. Kidman! How are those consequences sitting with you, Hugh? And with your side piece?

happy and free
happy and free
24 days ago

This week I was talking about good romcoms with a coworker I donโ€™t know that well she said well thereโ€™s this one, but I donโ€™t like hugh Jackman anymore. I responded yeah I donโ€™t like him either. Another woman jumped on to the convo with โ€œheโ€™s a douche, not hot anymore โ€œ and we all agreed. Hollywood, take notice.

Chumpty Dumpty
Chumpty Dumpty
24 days ago

These two met when they were in The Music Man, a musical about a con man who rips off a naive Midwestern town. And now they teach in Muncie, Indiana. Where, apparently, they are popular and well-liked.

Very flat, Indiana.

Kate
Kate
24 days ago

I remember how shocking it was for me when my ex kept jumping to defend Schmoopie. SO disorientating and heartbreaking. Iโ€™ll never watch a new Hugh Jackman film again. He could have treated her respectfully.

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
23 days ago
Reply to  Kate

Yes… same, will never forget him defending her. This person who I believed would defend my life… he stepped in front of HER, to protect HER from me as I was so angry, he said he didn’t know what I would do. He didn’t come towards ME, to comfort me or calm me or redirect me to talk somewhere. He stepped in front of her. To protect her. Such a heartbreaking shock.

Kate
Kate
23 days ago

Oh Iโ€™m so sorry that happened to you too. Such a shock. He said โ€˜she hasnโ€™t done anything wrong.โ€™ I beg to differ. Sheโ€™s muddled around in my marriage, been complicit in deceiving me, lied to her friends and others, knowing they would think her behaviour was inconsistent with who she portrays herself to be. He told me โ€˜donโ€™t fixate on herโ€™. FUCK OFF! Iโ€™ll fixate on who and what I want! I went crazy outside her house (I know! If it feels good, donโ€™t do it. Ended up with car damage I still havenโ€™t afforded to repair after 2 1/2 years ๐Ÿคฃ). Told the whole street he was married and sheโ€™d known that all along. Curtains were twitching. I went full Eastenders on their arses, whilst she hid behind her front door, spineless cow. As I left I smacked my car into the back of his – he loved his car and I knew it was one of the few things which would annoy him. Donโ€™t regret it.

MrsCrumpetChump
MrsCrumpetChump
21 days ago
Reply to  Kate

๐Ÿ˜† “I went full Eastenders on their arses…” ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿคฃ
… the back of his car…๐Ÿคฃ ๐Ÿ™Œ

The dent on your car is a Badge of Honour; a Don’t Mess With Kate! signal. (Glad no charges laid etc!).

Thanks Kate. Despite the searing pain behind the story, this did make my day and I did laugh…!

Tiggerly
Tiggerly
22 days ago

Itโ€™s nice to see cheaters get what they deserve.

pepito
pepito
19 days ago

What a dork! Imagine complianing to a gossip columnist about your social life, a grown-ass man. Able-bodied and rich, Hugh could have done virtually anything he wanted that day. He could have worked, or he could have gone fishing. He could have mentored a young person or got high and screwed a hooker. Of all his myriad options he chose to whine publicly about being snubbed by his celbrity “friends” and vaguely threaten some sort of retribution for the perceived disrespect. As though you can make people like you. Call your mom. Go to therapy. Talk to a real friend, one who won’t run to People Magazine. I wish my work/business “friends” would snub me more. I wish they would stop asking me to go have drinks after work. I wish they would stop inviting me to their weddings. I would be delighted to never be invited to another bar association holiday party, or Humane Society casino night. I’m not nearly as rich, sexy or talented as Hugh is. My life is absolutely dull and pedestrian compared to anyone who might get invited to the Met gala, yet I still have so many better things to do.