ABOUT TRACY SCHORN – CHUMP LADY
“Trust that they suck”
This is the support site I wish existed when I went through infidelity years ago. So I built it. When I’m not exhorting people to leave crappy relationships, I’m leading a pretty happy, humdrum life with my husband Paul (a former chump and retired civil rights attorney) and our very badly behaved Golden Retriever Monty. I’m also a journalist who writes about other topics, like Thaddeus Stevens, menopause, and draft horses. When I’m not writing, I’m drawing, painting or gardening. I’m certainly not thinking about my ex – and you shouldn’t either. There’s a good life on the other side of being chumped. Join me.
I write about it because I lived it.
INFIDELITY EXPERT
Shoots straight, decodes manipulation.
Put down the hopium pipe
Since 2012, Tracy has been forging a new narrative about infidelity that champions self-respect and self-care for those cheated on. This stands in contrast to the conventional victim-blaming discourse that encourages betrayed partners to own their part in their abuse and assumes reconciliation. Tracy as Chump Lady is the friend who shoots straight, decodes manipulation, and tells you to put down the hopium pipe. There is a good life on the other side of this nightmare. Leave the jerk. You’ll feel a lot better.
CHUMPITY CHUMP
Curious about Tracy’s Chump Cred?
Tracy’s advice on infidelity comes from lived experiences and cataloging the experiences of hundreds of thousands of other chumps on this blog. Chump Lady is the wisdom Tracy wishes she had when she woke up in bed with another woman’s thong stuck to her. More of the mortifying, tawdry details below.
Tell Me How You’re Mighty
Tracy, co-host Sarah Gorrell and guests talk infidelity, recovery, and the mysteries of the karma bus.
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THE SECRET SEXUAL BASEMENT – AN INTERVIEW WITH DR OMAR MINWALLA | EP.14
worst cheater gifts| EP.40
could your cheater have a personality disorder? an interview with dr peter salerno | EP.100
The Survival Guide, in your hands.
The classic no-nonsense guide to surviving infidelity—and coming out the other side with your self-respect and your sanity intact. Now revised and expanded, this sharp, funny, deeply validating book cuts through the excuses, blame-shifting, and bad advice that keep betrayed partners stuck. Tracy’s battle-tested wisdom will help you stop obsessing over the cheater and start building the life you deserve.
