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Welcome to the New Chump Lady Site!
Welcome to the new Chump Lady site! It’s been an eventful week with a milestone birthday, a book launch, and a new website coming together in a sort of unholy convergence. It is, of course, Tuesday (the day the Pain Stops), so fitting for new beginnings. I thought I’d make a little FAQ about what’s… -
Admiration for Women Over 50
Enough with the age shame — this chump writes to say the women she admires most are all over 50. Happiness and self-respect never go out of style. *** Hi Chump Lady and Chump Nation, I was re-listening to LACGAL yesterday, and there was a letter from someone who had discovered her husband’s infidelity with… -
I’m Too Old to Start Over
She’s exhausted from the chaos and feels like she’s too old to start over and build a new life. She can’t imagine being single. *** Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated on me. When I found out, it had been going on for a month or so…..but thought it was just messaging (not physical). I… -
The Perils of Flunking No Contact
Flunking no contact is human, but it can have some awful consequences. Hopium is a hard habit to quit. *** There’s nothing sadder than watching a chump pick up the hopium habit again. I can sit here on the sidelines and frantically wave my arms and shout “NO! DON’T DO IT!” But if you’re determined… -
New Changes Coming to Chump Lady
There are some changes coming to the Chump Lady blog. A new site redesign to go along with the new edition of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life and me narrating my audio book. *** Hey, welcome to my state of the blog address. I’m Chump Lady, your indefatigable host of Trust That They Suck… -
Did Cheater and the Affair Partner Break Up?
Not that this should matter one whit to your recovery, but did your cheater and their affair partner break up? Maybe they’re still together. Maybe it blew up instantly or over years. If you’re wise, you have no idea because you have zero contact with FWs. The Friday Challenge question is: Did your cheater break… -
I Broke No Contact and It Sucks
She broke no contact, looked at his social media, and totally lost her hard-won meh. The lesson: Don’t look. *** Dear Chump Lady, I am a long-time Chump Nation member, and I THOUGHT one of the older and wiser ones. I was divorced 6 years ago from a Lake-Erie-in-winter-ice-cold-cold, shark-eyed sociopath. When caught cheating, ex… -
James Wehr’s Girlfriend Discovered After Death
Influencer James Wehr died in a car crash, taking his new girlfriend Alexis Kramer with him. He had told Kramer he was separated. Which was news to his grieving widow. *** A 27-year-old influencer, James Wehr, died last Sunday speeding in his McClaren race car, returning home from a date with his Hooters girlfriend Alexis… -
Revenge on Suspected Affair Partner Ends in Arrest
In If It Feels Good Don’t Do It news, a Florida woman was arrested for throwing a bucket of poop on a woman she suspected of having an affair with her husband. *** I think many of us could cop to temporary insanity after D-Day, but it’s always worth remembering the CN adage: “If It… -
David Brooks Has a New Podcast
Insufferable columnist David Brooks, who swapped his first wife for his much younger research assistant, has a new podcast “The Permanent Questions.” On morality. Because irony is dead. *** I know you’re all waiting for the next exciting David Brooks status alert. How has our favorite scourge of single mothers been enjoying life since leaving… -
The New ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’ Book Is Out Today
The Friday Challenge is: How did you find the book “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life”? And did it change how you thought about infidelity or being chumped? *** Today’s the big day. After a year and a half of writing, editing, recording, and waiting… my new and improved book “Leave a Cheater, Gain a… -
Ex Booked a Cruise with Her, Affair Partner, and First Wife
Without her permission or encouragement, her ex-husband books his fantasy vacation — with her, his ex-wife, his Schmoopie, and his first wife, plus all the kids. WTF was he thinking? *** Dear Chump Lady, I found out three years ago that my ex-husband was cheating on me. Luckily, someone recommended your book right away. After…
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What Marriage Counselors Get Wrong About Infidelity
Marriage counseling on infidelity usually presumes reconciliation. Like this article in the Washington Post that the Universal Bullshit Translator recently pilloried — “Should an Affair Be Disclosed?…
When Does the Pain Stop? (Tuesday)
When does the pain of betrayal stop hurting? Why can’t she see him for who he really is and throw him out? *** Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs and how long I have been a…
My Ex Is Introducing Her Affair Partner to the Kids
He’s recently divorced and distressed that his ex wants to introduce her affair partner to the kids. They don’t know mom cheated. *** Dear Chump Lady, Here is my situation. I’m 6 months divorced from my wife of 15 years. We have 4 kids, ages 5, 7, 9, and 11 (yes, we planned well). Long…
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