Nathaniel Cullerton Did Not Think This Through
In womp-womp news, Nathaniel Cullerton was caught canoodling with an underling and had a lucrative job offer rescinded. I guess f*cking the help is a bad look to HR. The Friday Challenge is Womp-Womp Moments of Cheater Stupidity.
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Dear Chump Lady,
Can you please do a story about Nathaniel Cullerton, a partner at a BIG New York City law firm who was filmed ‘canoodling’ (as the NY Post called it) with an underling? (She is 29, he is 45.) Someone came by, told them ‘get a room!’ and filmed them, then posted it. After it got ten bazillion views, he was suspended from his firm.
Two points:
One, he is married.
And his wife of 11 years is a high-powered DIVORCE LAWYER who froze their accounts the same day, then filed for divorce the same day (all according to the NY Post).
Second, I think it’s obvious that these two canoodlers did not hear of the Coldplay fiasco. I think I would call this fiasco “Jumbotron Redux’.
Lulutoo
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Dear Lulutoo,
Okay, snarking about Nathaniel Cullerton is today’s topic. If the rest of Chump Nation was looking for a Friday Challenge, you could tell me about your cheater’s womp-womp moment of stupidity.
There are so many, Tracy.
I know, but really cheating on your DIVORCE LAWYER wife is epically stupid. Cheating with a subordinate when you KNOW THE LAW about the illegality of creating a sexualized work environment is also epically stupid. Cheating with a subordinate when you’re about to switch jobs to a new law firm and should probably be on your best professional behavior is staggeringly gonzo stupid.
How much does this guy charge an hour? People take advice from him for realz?
The New York Post reports:
Hotshot attorney Nathaniel Cullerton, 45, likely makes at least $4 million as a partner at the white shoe law firm Wachtell, Lipton, Rosen & Katz, the sources said.
He was placed on leave amid an investigation into the viral canoodling clip, sources said.
Thank you @JayGuap3 for bringing this wandering dick to the attention of Nathaniel Cullerton’s chumped wife and his employer.
I’m sure there are some who would call this a witch hunt and an unfair public shaming. These people have never had an irregular Pap smear after years of presumed monogamy. Or paternity tested their children.
Do not judge the judgers.
Ask what kind of flaming entitlement do you have to possess to make out on a public park bench with your subordinate? I imagine other members of their law firm stroll through Central Park. Perhaps even HIS WIFE? It’s okay to want to see this FWs taken down a few pegs.
A few million’s worth of pegs.
So, CN — can you match this womp-womp moment of stupidity?
TGIF!
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Two thoughts:
1) the duper’s delight stakes are higher if you can lie to and trick an actual divorce lawyer. He’s not stupid, he’s a risk-taker;
2) we need to teach young women not to be sucked in by these guys!
Agree. Though she may not have been sucked in, she may have known exactly what she was doing.
I thought that too. She didn’t look horrified at all in the vid. She looked like the cat that got the cream, pleased with herself to be the special one snogging The Partner …
Do you suppose she was trying to precipitate the divorce in the belief that he’d marry her later?
Exactly my thought! She tipped off someone come video! Regardless of their relationship, she DEFINITELY gets a promotion at work from the partners in order to avoid a lawsuit.
10 bucks says she paid the videographer…!
Exactly!
The chutzpah with which cheaters cheat and get bolder and bolder…that red nose in the video said it all! Gross
uh oh double womp-womp: https://nypost.com/2026/07/30/us-news/bosses-of-canoodling-central-park-lawyers-were-in-sexual-relationship-and-one-just-got-a-100m-pay-package-sources/
(They were working “pro-boner” and “getting in each others briefs” — chef’s kiss. The kind of writing that made the old NY Post great.) Also, the sums these people are being paid are gross.
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I just read the article after I commented down below. OMG, the writing is sensational! Every time I went to NYC I daily picked up a copy of the NY Post and giggled my way through. Page Six is always epic. Fun it’s on the Internet for a good laugh now.
Nathaniel’s wife is a superstar. She put that creep Keith Raniere into the hoosegow for 120 years. If you don’t know the story:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keith_Raniere
Those type of attorneys don’t make enough in my book.
Just realized this as well – his wife is Moira Penza (is it wrong to mention her name here?)!!! Even I (not from the U.S.) knew her name because of the (horrific!) story of NXIVM and its leader Keith Raniere and how she put him behind bars. In my view, she is indeed a superstar and has been for quite a while.
This really does confirm once again that anyone can be chumped, no matter how attractive or amazing they are, and no matter how good their critical thinking skills are.
The NY Post already identified her so it’s fine here. With search engines it’s pretty easy to identify people, unfortunately.
Yes, you can be the most fabulous person on this earth and be chumped. Unbeknownst to you you have a FW on your hands. They do the dumbest shi+ imaginable and expect everyone to think they’re the victims. It’s ridiculous. Because they’re ridiculous.
I still remember listening to some podcasts in which NXIVM survivors (many of whom were former actresses) were literally gushing over her, not just her performance in court, but also her looks, her style, everything. It’s pathetic how a guy like him could cheat on someone like her. Yet we see similar things happen all the time.
Wow. He’s extra, extra loathsome to cheat on her, doing the Lord’s work.
Agreed.
I am beginning to wonder if fidelity is a thing of the past. I think that there is a real change sweeping the nation. You have adult males who are into liquid adulting, which is they will grow up when they feel like it, which in most cases is never. So all of the young woman are left either with married men who are established and financially secure as a great option rather than waiting around for someone their own age to grow up. So they look around the office, bars, etc. and go for a guy that can offer them a future instead of sitting waiting for their own generation to grow up. There are plenty of mid-life crisis men willing to take the risk to grab something young. It’s a win win. How this problem will ever right itself is another thing, it may never.
“Liquid adulting”…that’s a new one to me.
Liquid adulting (or “liquid adulthood”) is a cultural and sociological term describing how younger generations—especially Gen Z—experience delayed, non-linear, or fluid life milestones due to modern economic and institutional instability. [1, 2, 3, 4]
Maturity in the sense of financial stability may be a draw for OW, but it’s certainly not emotional maturity that’s the draw. Cheaters are as emotionally immature as it gets. Also, I think OW are disordered and immature themselves and get off on “stealing” husbands. It makes them feel all superior and special.
From working in top-down industries that are packed with wall-to-wall pervs and creeps, I think you’re going too easy on the poachers, as if any young woman or a majority in these dynamics would resort to married oldsters for security and happily participate in breaking up families when, in my experience, it’s a very specific subset of women who do this.
Hmm. I don’t think that young women are “looking around the office” for mid-life crisis men who can “offer them a future.” (Does that mean financial stability and kids?) I think they are happily building their own futures. I think they are no longer equating “future” with “relationship.”
At least that’s what I did. (I was young when I split from cheater.) I never — not ever — looked to a married man as a great option and certainly not as my only option for a good life. Granted, I didn’t have kids, which a lot of people want, but I have a fantastic life.
Not sure if men aren’t growing up — I do think p*rn isn’t helping the culture — but that definitely doesn’t leave women with bad options.
I never said its just working girls, its girls in bars, at the gym etc, especially the gym, if you could see the men at the gym ogling the young girls via the multiple mirrors at every gym it would make you sick, while their wives sit innocently at home thinking they are working out to prolong their lives for the marriage, I say think again. It is sickening….
It’s the degrading onlyfans culture and I despair of young women subscribing to it. A rich middle aged lawyer is a lottery ticket to these types of hohos and they have zero empathy for the kids, wife, anyone else. They don’t want to work hard they want the spoils of someone else’s life.
Zero empathy and narcissistic behavior are on the rise.
Edit to add, I wasn’t thinking about the traditional workplace. I’ve been employed all my adult life and thankfully am able to support myself and kids.
College age girls / women are alarmingly choosing OF and sugar baby deals according to multiple friends with college aged children. Some high schoolers are too as soon as they are 18. I think this is definitely a new gross trend.
OF is clearly new. I’m not sure about sugar baby deals. Maybe some women now brag about those because they think it’s “s*x pozzy”, but I believe similar arrangements have existed before. The schmoopie in this case, on the other hand, looks quite old-fashioned to me. Maybe she was truly hoping to become his next wife, maybe she was hoping for a (likely undeserved) promotion, maybe she was simply jealous of his fabulous wife and this was the only way to one-up her, I don’t know.
Again, I don’t think this is new. When I was younger, people (especially men) frequently made nudge-nudge/wink-wink jokes about exactly (!!!) this type of behavior. Some men my age or older still do it. Some would openly brag about the “hot” secretaries they hired etc.
I guess they would simply consider him “successful” because he seemed to be able to get away with it (until this point).
In my view, people don’t have become more immoral. If anything, we (especially us women) have become more willing to call this out.
Don’t overlook Frank Hopkins who abandoned his wife and TEN children during the Great Depression, slandered and libeled Lady Anne Blunt, made up a non-existent long distance horse race and also maligned many other famous people of the day.
Being an entitled and gifted liar, who also cheats on and abandons responsibilities, is not new.
Not with the frequency and access to young women in the workforce which was non-existent 100 years ago. The young women are out there and the old guys in power “think Dan Broderick” are ripe for the picking, think Betty Broderick. It is common today it was sensational news years ago. The Blue Pill has changed everything, if they can get it up they are looking for young. Young women only have to put in 10 years with some old coot and they have it made and they are catching on to a good thing. The men being led by their bits and pieces don’t care they are going for it and aren’t worried about what they will lose in the process.
I do agree about the blue pill. For a couple reasons, but one being it has given men the ability to go out on the prowl with confidence. Modern medicine is overall great, but is a part of altering society, in multiple facets. Hard to explain in text.
Viagra is no friend to women. Google “HIV incidence in retirement villages”.
I agree, of course I know you don’t mean all women. Young women who have not been coerced need to be held accountable if they broke company policy. They hurt the women who are building their lives ethically.
Also, this guy doesn’t fall into the old creeper category. Creep yes, but they are getting younger and younger. There isn’t that big of an age difference. She isn’t a spring chicken either.
I agree, of course I know you don’t mean all women. Young women who have not been coerced need to be held accountable if they broke company policy. They hurt the women who are building their lives ethically.
Also, this guy doesn’t fall into the old creeper category. Creep yes, but they are getting younger and younger. There isn’t that big of an age difference. She isn’t a spring chicken either.
I say this with 🧡 — I think this is a tad off. It has not been my experience that young women are looking to put in 10 years to score big financially and do nothing. Some? — I guess. But I know scores and scores of young, thoughtful, feminist women who believe in themselves.
I believe it was worse in the past when women had to surmount even higher obstacles to get any job, especially in the office, but also in professions like nursing. This is how clichés like the secretary who had to sleep with her boss just to get the job or keep it came about (nowadays we would call that s*xual harassment, and with good reason).
In my experience, nowadays it’s usually just a small minority of women in the workplace who would be willing to engage in this (often those who are either under-qualified for the job or have other issues that would normally prevent them from getting hired). However, sadly, many FW would make sure to hire exactly those women. This is why s*xual favoritism as such is the root of the issue (and the FW’s actions and choices!), not women in general.
30 years ago, many married men openly bragged about the “hot” secretaries they hired. And when they left their wife for said secretary, that was often viewed as a marker of success. At the same time, as a woman with a career I hate the suggestion that women in the workplace are somehow the issue and the cause of all turmoil. My career was severely derailed twice due to getting bullied by workplace schmoopies. Only the (male!) FWs and the schmoopies were to blame for that, not me (just because I’m a woman too). Not all of us are willing perpetrators.
I agree with you about the little blue pill. And I think women in the workforce are a factor but not a necessary factor, because decades ago women were just as prevalent elsewhere in society, be it at the supermarket, a college campus, a country club, a neighborhood. FWs gotta FW, so they will seek out what they want wherever it might be. Although, yes, the workplace provides easy access which might tip the scales for the less motivated FWs. I said to my FW “If she weren’t standing right next to you all day this never would have happened” and he replied “You’re probably right.”
I think the same… my xh wouldn’t have gone looking, but they worked together all day…
In my experience, they are still actively looking, even if they may be doing it in more subtle ways. This is why I believe employers need to take a firm stance against s*xualized behavior in the workplace (it usually harms the entire workplace, not just the chump), rather than put all women under suspicion simply because they are there and they are women.
Yes, I guess I’m not commenting on it being workplace per se, just that happened to be where they had daily close contact… and that daily close contact lead to inappropriate, immoral close contact.
My xh doesn’t fit the profile of most fws on here… hence being able to relate to the comment Best Thing said to her husband. So yeah, I blame the OW, but then her xh blames my xh! Not that it changes anything. Lose-lose.
And I was thinking today about Little Miss Peacock lawyer in the vid, smiling like she’s the cat that got the cream. And it reminded me of when I confronted my now xh and the persona non grata OW at their work… I wasn’t sure if it was her in my traumatised brain state, and asked who she was.. and she said “I’m persona non grata” and held out her hand to shake my hand. She was like this lawyer woman… no shame, no remorse, no shock or horror. Just… smug.
Any suggestion that the world would better off with no women in the workplace because it would “save marriages” somehow scares me. In the end, this would render chumps even more financially dependent on their FW, who (of course) would still find ways to cheat, especially when many single women would be desperate for money.
However, I am absolutely in favor of taking strong action against any sexual favoritism in the workplace. After all, that is the real problem (deliberate actions taken by male FW), not the mere presence of women.
I saw a thing online where a woman said the world would be better off without men.
One male commenter said, ”Oh yeah, and who would protect you?”
“From whom?” was her answer.
😆🤣😆
Just to be clear I am in no way suggesting that women should not be in the workplace – I’m not sure that’s what you meant but just wanted to make sure there is no misunderstanding.
Don’t worry, I agreed with your last comment! However, I was worried about some other comments in this thread. I think it’s necessary to point out that those problems are being caused by (usually male) FWs and a few willing schmoopies, not by women in general. Also, this type of favoritism tends to create a lot of chaos in the workplace, another good reason to take action against any FWs who use the office as their “hunting ground”.
Nah. There have always been spectacularly horrible potential partners.
There was a married man with five kids whose wife got tuberculosis. His very elderly mom took in the 13 and 11 year old daughters but couldn’t care for an ill woman and her three preschoolers. His wife and 4, 3, and 2 year old children were confined at the county poor farm. The three kids were given to other families to raise; the mom died a year later. Meanwhile, Daddy Dearest ran off to California and remarried before his wife died. He showed up again once his 4 year old son was an adult. The kid got him a menial job in the business he owned but didn’t let him move in … This was 1888-1900.
My great-grandfather was legit worse. He left his seven young children with his elderly mother on a poverty stricken farm when he was widowed and disappeared for years during the great depression. The only reason the kids didn’t end up at the Poor Farm was my great-great grandma’s iron will – and the financial support of two of her grown step-daughters who worked in Chicago and brought home clothes, shoes, bulk goods and produce for the kids. What makes him worse was his habit of SA his grandchildren when he reappeared in the 1940’s.
The difference is that women aren’t required to be married to have access to money, housing, or legal custody of children. We can afford -literally- to find better quality men because being single is an option.
Thank God for that.
Perhaps it’s my algorithim these days. Or my recent experience (at some point over the last 35 years, my FW lost his mind). Also, I have a young-adult daughter who is dating (and one young man she met was a dedicated Andrew Tate follower), also a young-adult son who says it’s terrifying to be male these days, you don’t want to be misconstrued as a creep.
Apologied to male chumps, I know it’s not all men, but there is something badly wrong with so many men, young and old, these days. What’s going on?
Before social media, we simply weren’t able to observe as much of this behavior. Doesn’t mean it didn’t happen, it was just far easier to cover it up. Without smartphones and TikTok, in all likelihood this wouldn’t have become public at all, and he might have continued like this for years without his wife (and his employers) knowing. While I think social media is a net negative in many other ways, I think we could be grateful for this level of transparency.
I’ve had a similar thought here. I can directly tie the unwinding of my marriage to the dawn of the internet— I was able to access better information while his popcorn consumption went through the roof! I’ve almost had to go through a second coming of age with what I’ve learned over the past 25 years. I’ve hated losing my innocence and was kind of peeved to get exposed to his disgusting secret life. I’m working on putting up thoughtful guardrails in my wonderful new life. I’m just ten years past divorce and 15 years past d-day and, though I hate all of the hateful, disgusting behavior online, I think its always existed.
Consent and compliance are fairly new to the mating game. I was raised in the sixties, and I heard advice being given to my older cousins about dating – some good, some bad. But the general attitude was that you had to be nice, polite, sweet, and don’t tick off the men and boys. These days a woman does not have to put up with any BS and is not expected to be nice and polite to a man who creeps her out. That being said I have been witness to young women these days who turn really nasty on men/boys who are trying to make a respectful inquiry as to interest and availability (keyword “respectful”). From my perspective both men and women need to learn some social skills. It’s the creepy men and the knee-jerk women who are making it hard on everyone.
Meta has its hands in sooo many things. FB, IG, AI… FB was 1/2 started by lame frat bros that created an algorithm to rank the sexual appeal of women on campus (smash or pass). That was the mindset that launched 1,000 ships to create the hellscape that is social media today. Bot farms and AI content that get $$ for clicks that fuel fears and insecurities.
That leaves no one of value for those of us who got cheated on after 20-30-40 yrs of marriage. We were loyal, faithful, loving, and discarded. It’s a lose-lose.
It’s not a lose-lose, y’all! We have our health! Our precious freedom! We did what many thousands of people don’t have the guts to do — which is LACGAL! We still have our loyalty, our faithfulness, our loving values!
I’m not being polly-anna here. We are one thousand percent on the better side, really.
Case in point: STBX wife of Nate Cullerton here is is no way shape or form a loser! She will likely take him to the cleaners, go on to win more law cases, and probably have relaxing vacations in the Maldives without this jackhole in tow. 🎉 Even if the relaxing vacation is in my backyard, it’s still better without a cheater in it.
I should have been more clear. It’s a lose-lose for THEM. They lost everything and we have our peace and integrity intact. I have my grandkids and he will NEVER see them.
There are few of value left…we woman must support each other through the rest of our years. I’m fine with that
In my area, I haven’t seen evidence of any decent ones. I hope others do find them. I don’t look. I’m at peace.
The young and single men are Peter Pans, so go after a confirmed cheater instead? Well, that’s a strategy. Might not work out the way they’re hoping, though.
TBH, I’m Gen X and while I was young, I spent a lot of time in the media industry. The amount of sexual favoritism happening around me was shocking (committed by married men of all ages). This isn’t new. Not at all. People just used to normalize it even more than they do today.
It’s obviously not the biggest issue here, but why do very wealthy men like him need to prey on their own underlings? Theoretically, their money could probably buy them enough “love” outside their workplace. But I guess they enjoy the power trip (and the ensuing chaos that’s common in s*xualized workplaces).
I wonder what their coworkers thought about this, and whether she turned into a workplace bully, too (like the two workplace schmoopies who forced me to change careers twice).
From her reaction on camera (not running away and hiding her face in tears of terror the way a true exploited ingenue would respond but confronting the cameraman with that perky pit bull grin– literally defending “the patriarchy” by shielding a middle age partner), I would guess she’s the kiss-up/slap-down type who likes to wear the strap-on d*** of whatever honcho they’re fluffing. If so, she may have been starting to get a bit smug and imperious with more junior associates or even peers. But the snickering will be quiet because disordered personalities tend to be pretty skilled in playing people off each other.
Also, I wouldn’t be surprised if she knew about his (seemingly amazing and widely admired) wife and was secretly hoping to be found out just to spite her. As the chump is a lawyer too, there was probably some degree of professional rivalry as well (the same reason why workplace schmoopies often bully their more accomplished female coworkers).
Who knows what the motive is but there are studies showing that poachers are more likely to poach if they perceive the target’s mate as particularly attractive and high value. I guess it’s a bit like ancient “exocannibalism”– eating the beating heart of one’s enemy (or other organs) on the battlefield on the belief this endows one with the opponent’s admirable traits or as an act of ultimate humiliation.
It is the living worst to be working with a FW and an AP. The privileges extended to the AP are galling, and HR and other execs turn a blind eye. I had no recourse, and my career got totally derailed — all so that FW and AP could giggle and rake in the money. This was between three or four different “couples” in my company.
Well, I did have one recourse — to LEAVE for en entrepreneurial career. No more corporate b.s. for me.
Let me add that once you are entitled and taste the fruits of numerous woman everywhere begging for you..apparently..you get bold and will take woman whenever and wherever. Free to roam. It’s just like picking apples 🍎..no discretion
Proximity. He might put in a lot of effort to make a lot of money, but entitled creeps like him don’t want to put in a lot of effort for strange if they don’t have to.
Oh, I dunno. When Cold Slab O’Meat and the Sluteus made a baby on company time, their employer threw them a baby shower. If i had slowed the divorce from warp speed he would have still been married at the time of the baby’s conception and birth.
Sometimes there are bo consequences and the chump just has to start over from rubble.
Yep. Everyone at my FW’s work knew he and howorker were having an affair for years, and doing it during their working hours. They were literally getting paid for cheating both their spouses and their employer. There were no consequences other than some people giving them dirty looks when they walked out of the office to go cheat.
The baby shower thing is taking enabling way too far though. That actually makes me feel nauseous.
Wow
I am grateful that I never had to see video evidence of FW’s affair; I think it might have made me vomit.
She didn’t skip a beat, though. What a baddie.
SparkleDick thought he was oh-so-clever to take the Schmoopie to this scuzzy sports bar less than a mile from our home. He was right that I wouldn’t have been caught dead in a place like that, but my private investigator had no qualms filming them feeding each other mozzarella sticks and chicken fingers (It’s What’s For Dinner), making out and feeling one another up. In. Public.
Ew.
As for the subject of this nitwit, Nathaniel Cullerton having PDAs in Central Park. Nate (may I call you Nate?), are you dumb? I realize NYC has a population of 8 million people or so, but did you really think no one would know who you are? According to your CV on your company’s website:
“Education
Western Connecticut State University, B.A. 2009, summa cum laude
Georgetown University Law Center, J.D. 2013, magna cum laude, Order of the Coif (Executive Articles Editor, The Georgetown Law Journal)”
Um, you don’t graduate summa, magna AND Order of the Coif from East coast universities and be dumb. Hell, I can walk down Fifth Avenue at lunchtime and run into someone I know. And I don’t even live in NYC. It happens every time I visit.
What a prick.
He and SparkleDick should hang together and trade war stories on what bi+ches their ex-wives are.
Ruins mozzarella stick and chicken fingers for me forever@!
I’m sorry. Get the fried pickles and Texas Twinkies instead and think of Chump Nation!
Haaa..lots of other items on the menu!!!
Good for you for getting a PI. More people should, in my opinion.
Best money I ever spent to be FW free!
My PI was the nicest guy ever. And a damn good PI (retired Secret Service dude.) Sadly, he recently passed away. I went to his funeral and wondered how many of the mourners there were his clients. I didn’t ask of course, but I wondered.
Mine happened to be awesome too, treated me like a daughter. He said that in the 35 yrs he’d been doing this, he had never met such a horrible serial hub poacher. She was dangerous and violent. He had proof. PI said he could actually feel sorry for my now ex because he got tricked by a pro but that I needed to take action to protect myself immediately. And I did.
I didn’t want to know anything more about SparkleDick’s love thang. I knew enough. But my non-Switzerland friends have kept me informed of all the ghastlyness that is them. Because it’s such a shi+show. Schadenfreude? Yes, I partake. My particular favorites are the Schmoopie mug shots. DUIs and assault charges. Nice. I don’t drive when I’ve been drinking and I certainly don’t assault people. My gal pals don’t give me details because they know I don’t care. But I do laugh. And breathe a sigh of relief.
They aren’t dumb; they feel entitled. That’s all it is. And the entitlement makes them think they have superpowers. Bet you a lot this guy was lying to the chump spouse for some time and getting off on it. The more they get away with, the bolder they become.
The spouse is brilliant. She has seen it all before. Good for her!!!
Given that she acted so quickly, I wonder if she’d been suspicious for a while.
Not only that but given that she is an attorney she knew, unlike most chumps, immediately what to do to protect herself. Most of us had to learn that the hard way.
I wish this particular divorce proceeding would be televised. Because this will not be settled out of court because she’s a divorce attorney and he is a litigator at an elite law firm. He’s going to argue that the video isn’t what we saw, he’s misunderstood and his wife is a harridan.
There used to be a TV program called “Divorce Court” back in the day. They should bring it back just for cheaters. The ratings would be stellar! Chump Lady could be a War Correspondent.
On a related note, New York, like most states in the US, is an equitable distribution state. If they don’t have a prenup, the judge may choose to divide property unequally.
But surely this couple has a prenup…
My narcsociopath ex had a torrid affair with a coworker subordinate husband poacher even though he knew better, too, although he wasn’t an attorney. I don’t know how many other employees knew, but I bet it was a lot as they weren’t too circumspect about their couplings.If I had reported it to the company (I had proof) he would have lost his job, probably his career, but my attorney at the time suggested it was not the best move for me financially. I did not out him and kinda sorta regret it. I don’t know if there’s a statute of limitations but maybe one day I will do something.
How’s this for epically stupid?
FW was found out. FW went to stay with his father. FW told daughter he wasn’t seeing “those women” aka strippers anymore, also that he felt lonely at Dad’s house so he was going to go stay at a hotel, cuz if you’re not fooling around with strippers , staying alone in a hotel room is less lonely?
Pending charges started showing up on our credit card. From the most expensive hotel in our city.
I called. “What are these charges?” I asked. FW was indeed staying at this hotel. “Oh, are you INSERT STRIPPER NAME?” asked the hotel employee. “Where’d you get that name?” “Oh! I can’t say,” said the stricken hotel employee.
My attorney had a subpoena to the hotel for all documents and video pertaining to FW that afternoon, and the hotel was only too happy to comply (thinking they don’t want sex work being done at their hotel). Unfortunately, FW’s attorney quashed it and had FW admit that INSERT STRIPPER’S NAME came for dinner and did get a mani-pedi at the spa but did not stay over, as if that’s at all believable.
And he continues to lie.
Was told this by my cheater sister..”.oh don’t worry.. you’ll find another guy ..plenty of men are looking at their wives after 20 or 30 years, and comparing them to new fresh blood. Keep yourself cute and you can nab one of them. “
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Obviously the underling here in the video thinks that. IMHO the OW is not even cute she’s literally a plain Jane even though she is dolled up for a very image conscious job. In NYC there are many more attractive women. All she’s got is she’s younger and she’s new p**sy.
Video also shows that OW aren’t gorgeous models with super powers (sometimes as chumps we might fall into this depressing line of thinking), they’re just scuzzy mate poachers.
I am convinced it is a mistake to assume the OW is better looking, or even attractive. I think the only thing that matters is that OW is NOT THE WIFE. Cheaters don’t really cull much and they seem to scruple at very little.
It could also be that all of the more attractive women in his office simply turned him down.
Oh, burn!!! Although you’re probably right.
She’s just close by and sitting still. That’s all you need to be
Mrs. Bendover was a tad stupider than Dr. D. Lusional. Her husband called her one night around midnight as the two lovebirds were driving back to the office from their tryst at a hotel. She was so late coming home, is everything okay? Mrs. Bendover told him that she was still at work sanitizing operatories, because Covid (this was 2020). The problem with that particular lie was that Mr. Bendover had called on FaceTime and she answered the call from the passenger seat of FWs car, with the car headrest behind her and the streetlights flashing by. Idk know if poor Mr. Bendover ever questioned that lie because he stayed with her for several more months afterward.
When FW told me this story (he delighted in telling me everything he was up to because apparently I was his “best friend”) he laughed at Mr. Bendover, calling him stupid to believe his wife. Maybe so, but FW was stupider for boning Mr. Bendover’s wife.
The cheater’s wife seems like a rock star. Successfully led a major news-headline prosecution and looks gorgeous. I hope she will recognize this FW unmasking as the godsend that it is and will find CN and others who won’t try to persuade her otherwise.
This is an old tale from my life, at least 17 years behind me. It still makes me laugh it’s so stupid.
I learned about my first boyfriend in college had cheated on me with at least one woman. So I had been in no contact with him for a good 7 months, was in a new relationship. Met a classmate of my new boyfriend, and while we were chatting, she dropped a name…the name of my ex. She said she hated him. I asked why. She said “He cheated on me.”
I told her verrry interesting…he cheated on ME. So we started swapping stories. Turned out not only had he cheated on both of us, he cheated on me with her, on her with her friend, on her friend with two people. I didn’t know about her, she didn’t know about me. So we joined forces. She showed me REEEECEIPTS. Including a photo of him in a purple dress.
A couple weeks later he’s at the birthday party of a mutual friend. I knew he’d be there and it was on a big ranch property so I had no intention of speaking to him. But of course he comes looking for me and says “I dont want anything bad between us.” I told him I knew about all the others and listed all their names. He paused for a moment and said “I don’t know who -name of my new friend- is.”
I told him “I named four people just now. Might want to cover all your bases if you’re gonna lie.”
A couple weeks later, my new friend calls me and tells me she ran into our ex at the grocery store and he followed her around, yelling and screaming at her for telling me about “their thing.” She told him “Our thing? You were cheating on both of us with the whole town.” Apparently he was making such a scene the manager came out to see if there was a problem. She said “No, this man and his boyfriend have confused me with someone else.” Her saying that pissed him off so much he stormed out of the store.
Womp-wooooomp!
my fw was shtumping his direct report for who knows how long. He got an ethics violation filed against him. I don’t know what took them so long. wish they had done it sooner. but to be fair, I don’t know how long it was going on.
The look on Nathaniel’s face at the end of the video appears to show that he was grasping (by the millisecond) how bad his situation really was.
My Cheater was more mean than stupid, but his OW made a serious error in judgement. My Cheater was a military officer tasked with the development and purchase of specialty items for the military. His OW was a sales person tasked to seal the deal of the large military contract for her employer. Her having sex with him might look like a “honeypot” scandal, so as soon as her (schmoopiesque) work email were read by her employer, she was fired.
He, of course, felt bad that he had gotten his new gf fired, so he used the influence and goodwill (that he had been cultivating for HIS upcoming civilian career) to get his gf a new job. It resulted in him not being able to apply for a job with her new company that would have paid him about $300,000/yr. (That was 21 years ago, so it sounded like a zillion dollars to me).
He did get a job paying about $125,000 (which still sounded like a lot to me then) but it wasnt enough to swing 2 families. I never did get the story of why they broke up and he came home for wreckonsillyation …Im sure it wasnt because he loved me (I was a fool to take him back) but I think OW did the math.
Yes! It looks like he is starting to want the ground to open up, whereas she is parading around like a peacock.
Looks drunk or high to me.
Three cheers for the person who filmed and posted this! Yahoo!! One more cheater outed. The old adage still holds true….do not do anything in public, anywhere, that you don’t want on the big screen in Times Square ( now, online). My ex FW also cheated in public with numerous betrayal objects. Never thought anyone woul ever see or know. Hiw wrong he was. What you do in public park or a public street is just that, public. Many bars and restaurants have cameras. Most hotel lobbies, elevators, and hallways, too. This guy will get taken to the cleaners. Yay!!
My womp-womp moment of stupidity was finding a disposable camera covered in black electrical tape in my then-estranged husband’s jacket pocket. I’d gotten a temporary restraining order because he was putting the kids in danger while under the influence, while I was at work. The judge rescinded the restraining order on a technicality. My ex was immediately back in the house. I went home to grab a few things for the kids and skedaddle out of town for their safety. FW was in the kitchen, and I noticed his jacket in the entry hall. I knew instantly that the black electrical tape on a disposable camera in his pocket indicated that he thought he was Secret Spy. I grabbed and stashed it. When I had the film developed, there were pictures of one of his paramours. Up to that point the last thing I considered of the many things that were wrong with the guy was infidelity. My immediate response was, “this too?” My attorney used the pictures in the divorce trial.
OW in the video has such an empty-headed smile on her face the whole time like she thinks it’s a joke. Then she tries to get the cameraman to turn off his cam because she has to, you know, protect her 43 year old daddy.
I’m sure those she works with are impressed with her empty head and daddy-issues. /s
If they would have just stopped kissing, there would have been nothing interesting to post. It was their confrontation go the guy doing the video that made it more dubious by the second
My ex FW didn’t get caught publicly per se. But we worked together and our agency had a client who sent a very young woman to work with us. She was weird, dumb, looked bedraggled every day, but also overly made up. All my staff members complained about having to work with her because she was so odd and idiotic. I had a word to my client to see if we could have someone else to work on the project they hired us for. He was creepy about it- he said he’d taken her under his wing and was showing her the ropes and hoping we could upskill her. I knew then he was probably sleeping with her and it gave me creepy vibes. The team kept enduring her weirdness and ineptitude. She was especially weird to me. I’d catch her staring at me intently, hanging on my every word. She complimented me way too much. You may see where this is going- she was the person my ex FW was scrwing (one of the many). When people at work found out they were horrified and disgusted at the sheer downgrade for one thing, and the inappropriateness of it most importantly. So although it wasn’t public it would have carried some deep shame for him which feels pretty good to me 😂
My FW dragged me into endless abusive litigation all the way to state supreme court (he lost after 5 appeals coz it was pointless except to abuse me). Then he got dream job, quit his pensioned state job & moved schmoopie & their child 2000 miles into a shiny new mcmansion.
Well turns out the job offer was provisional and weirdly was rescinded some 3 months in (right after our salacious court case hit the interwebz).
Last I heard they’re eyeballs deep in debt & schmoopie is having to support him & child and pay for the 5 bedroom lovenest (*and that exact time she found out of his secret affair and other toddler love-child*). I’ve asked my grown kid to not tell me any more, not my circus.
They get off shiny new things plus their victims’ pain. They deserve each other 🎊
That poor child. Zero sane parents. Oh, there’s two poor children! Your ex sure is busy.
Ka-chump — I should’ve expressed sympathy for your own child, and for you. Lawfare sucks. It’s still more malicious control-freakery. I hope your ex stays 2,000 miles away. But his 2 kids from 2 baby mamas … they both have 2 strikes against them.
“When a man marries his mistress, he creates an immediate job vacancy.”
Oh no worries my divorce was 20 yrs ago & the slugs were abroad, then 10 yrs ago moved back to US, needed kibble$ & began an epic legal battle that went nowhere. My long grown kid has been estranged from FW 5 years and changed names and we’re happy. But kid hears the crazy stuff from half-sibling which I mostly don’t care to know.
What grown up wants to make out on a park bench??
They look so awkward as well… (cringe)…
My Dog! Married to a divorce lawyer, and he was this dumb???
Words fail me.
I know, that is so funny.
Not my chump, but the husband of a friend: idiot took his viagra prescription to the pharmacy the entire family used. Wife went in to get a list of all medication expenditures to file their taxes and there it was. She said: “He sure wasn’t using it with me!”
FW did “use” Viagra while having sex with me in the months leading up to d-day. I’m convinced he was practicing on me. “Will half a pill do the trick? How long to I stay hard”–you know, like a science experiment. And he was a physician, so part of the training, I guess. 🙄
When he left, I noticed a refill of his Viagra subscription and pointed it out to him. The liar said, “It’s not what you think!” Wait. What? Also, why lie now? Cat’s out of the bag, dude.
Here’s an example of lying as the default mode for these cheaters. They can’t help themselves.
Oh, and this while insisting he hadn’t lied since coming clean about the affair. Yet another lie!!! Mind boggling.
Will tell my story til the cows come home because it’s not my job to protect my eX’s fake “great guy” reputation.
Shopping online to rent the bodies of young women for sex, he was in the habit of texting them to inquire about their fees, availability and location. He left those text conversations on his ipad and his iphone, and eventually, after many years, I finally realized that he was up to something when he was supposedly at work (and not ONLY abusing me at home). I finally figured out I needed to check out his devices after I asked him what was going on with him and he claimed that “nothing” was up with him. And then I found years and years of these text chats with the “lovely ladies” who charge a lot of money for their time.
So his stupidity was several things: fuccquing strange as a hobby while married, keeping this secret double life for years, thinking that his tech trail (texts) would not be discovered, and assuming that I’d not eventually discover his traitor actions.
Stupid, stupid man! His punishment is being him. Yuck. I do not know how he can live with himself. So pathetic.
Can’t beat this moment of stupidity, but I will share my stories from DDay. FW supposedly went cross country skiing alone for a weekend while I was on a weekend trip with my best friend. The idiot came back with all sorts of trashy OW presents – tshirt, headband, cake, a tea flower, soap, packets of instant pudding (I am sure he complained to OW nonstop that I was such a bad wife and didn’t make him pudding often enough). I found them hiding all over the apartment and he tried to gaslight me that they had been there forever. Nope, I clean and do all the laundry, idiot.
But what really got him was that he was obsessed with his sports watch. He always showed me his distance and heartbeat, etc. So when I was on to him and asked to see his wonderful cross country stats, he said there was some sort of bug with the program. Somehow I eventually got to see some of the stats for 2 seconds. My superpower is analyzing graphs and data and drawing conclusions super fast. Let’s just say 2 seconds was all I needed to understand what his time, heart rate and location tracking indicated for what he categorized as „other outside activity“.
Love your super power that’s a cool one! And awesome that your data crunching crunched him too.
Not awesome for you of course. So sorry.
Unfortunately, most of Lizard’s funnier or cathartic shenanigans had nothing to do with him cheating. The “whomp whomp” was your usual groveling after I finally burnt myself out trying to fix the relationship and left, nothing unique there.
However, this story was HYSTERICAL. Shout out to his STBX for immediately getting her ducks in a row! I suppose being a divorce lawyer in her own right helped, but that’s true efficiency. I agree that this couple must’ve missed the memo from the Coldplay Concert Fiasco. (Coldplaygate?) What happened to cheaters meeting up in dingy bars? Heck, at least Lizard met up with Schmoopie in a dark parking lot. Now, it may have been the parking lot of where all three of us worked, but I couldn’t tell what they were doing. Out in broad daylight, in the most famous city park in the US. I feel like FWs and APs are getting more and more bold these days.
Good. Let them expose themselves.
Not sure how that whole dynamic will keep going considering professional schools are 70% or more women. Women make up a huge portion of the workforce now. Maybe itll start going the other way where power hungry married women will start banging the janitors and security officers. The paralegals and interns will be women as well. Or maybe you will have one older professional man in the office with all women and they all in competition for him. The pick me dance with 20 women who will get to be the lucky AP? Dance harder girls! Faster! Faster! Or perhaps they will decide to switch teams. Its already lopsided. They say there are only 10% eligible men who 100% women want to date. Women have to be way more aggressive now. I see it with my kids and their classmates. The girls are now the ones in hot pursuit. The boys are afraid of making any moves, Or they are accused of sexual harassment.
Sadly for Moira, they have at least one child together. May Moira not parrot the standard b.s. line to children.
https://news.bloomberglaw.com/business-and-practice/theyve-got-next-the-40-under-40-moira-penza-of-wilkinson-stekloff