GLOSSARY OF TERMS
Acronym list
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Amazon chump |
The state of chumpdom where you read everything on Amazon about infidelity |
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Bitch cookie |
The reward you demand for doing something you should do anyway, i.e., “You didn’t clean out the ENTIRE 401K? Great. Want a bitch cookie?” |
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Boundaries |
What you will and will not put up with |
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Cake |
Having the spouse and the affair |
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Cluster B |
A series of personality disorders on the Borderline/Narcissist/Sociopath spectrum |
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D-Day |
Discovery day (the day you discovered the affair) |
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Fuckwit |
A vulgarity used for cheater, expressed as FW (to avoid censors) |
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Hopium |
The hallucinogenic drug of hope that make you see potential and good outcomes where none exist |
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Meh |
The state of acceptance when you don’t care about your cheater |
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Narc or Nark |
A narcissist |
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Narkles |
Narcissist sparkles |
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No contact |
Refusing to engage with the cheater |
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Pick me dance |
Vying for the attention of the cheater, triangulation between the chump, the cheater, and the affair partner |
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Reconciliation Industrial Complex |
The vague conspiracy sense that religious and for-profit institutions want you to try to reconcile indefinitely |
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Shit sandwich |
The crappy situation you must choke down |
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Skein |
The skein of fuckupedness, their issues |
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Spackle |
Covering up, the lies we tell ourselves when someone is behaving badly |
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Sparkle |
The charisma of a narcissist or Cluster B type |
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Sparkly turd |
A narcissist, someone who appears to sparkle, but has turd at the core |
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Tuesday |
When the pain stops |
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Unicorn |
An unlikely thing, usually referring to reconciliation |
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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness |
Wasting time trying to figure them out |
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AP |
Affair partner |
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BP |
Borderline Personality or bipolar |
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BS |
Betrayed spouse or bullshit |
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BTW |
By the way |
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CL |
Chump Lady |
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D-Day |
Discovery day (the day you discovered the affair) |
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DD |
Darling daughter |
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DS |
Darling son |
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FOO |
Family of origin |
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FW |
Fuckwit |
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FWIW |
For what it’s worth |
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ILYBINILWY |
I love you but I’m not in love with you |
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IMHO |
In my humble opinion |
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IMO |
In my opinion |
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LTA |
Long-term affair |
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NPD |
Narcissistic Personality Disorder |
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OM |
Other man |
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OTOH |
On the other hand |
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OW |
Other woman |
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RIC |
Reconciliation Industrial Complex |
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STBX |
Soon-to-be ex |
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WS |
Wayward spouse |
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YMBAC |
You might be a chump… |
