The Survival Guide, in your hands.

The classic no-nonsense guide to surviving infidelity—and coming out the other side with your self-respect and your sanity intact. Now revised and expanded, this sharp, funny, deeply validating book cuts through the excuses, blame-shifting, and bad advice that keep betrayed partners stuck. Tracy’s battle-tested wisdom will help you stop obsessing over the cheater and start building the life you deserve.

  • Stupid shit cheaters say and how to respond.
  • Why reconciliation is an iffy proposition with long odds.
  • The fine art of no contact.


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Self Respect

NO-NONSENSE GUIDE

Gain a life after betrayal.

This no-nonsense guide is for anyone who has ever been cheated on and needs advice, not based on saving their relationship after infidelity, but saving their sanity. Based on the writings of Tracy Schorn’s popular infidelity blog ChumpLady.com, Schorn offers a masterclass on how to decode manipulation, fight back, and focus on gaining a life after betrayal.

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Need my voice to tell you there’s a better life on the other side of chumpdom? Listen to me narrate Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life in this new edition. Available on Audible, Spotify, or wherever you get your audio book.

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  • The Monogamy
    Muddle

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Don’t Take My Word for it.. Here’s What the Readers Say…

  • BUY IT NOW! DON’T WAIT!

    This book is probably THE book in the required list for those who sadly had someone stray and walk out on them. She uses both genders in her writing so you don’t feel pigeonholed into a side you don’t identify. It’s brilliant work focused on hope for a clearer future and honestly, it can help save your sanity.
    Thunder

  • LIKE FINDING WATER IN A DESERT!

    This book is brilliantly written and kicks the lid cleanly off of and stomps on all the worn-out, shame, fear, and self-blaming wives commonly feel after learning about their husbands infidelity. After 26 years of marriage to that “great guy” the “nice doctor “ beloved by the entire city- my world came crashing down in a split second when I learned about his multiple affairs through the decades. After the classic months of self-blaming, reading every book on infidelity and forgiveness and buying into the “better together“ mantras I added “Leave A Cheater Gain A Life” to my long list of forgiveness and healing books as I endured his shallow apologies and tried to live my normal life. Thank you for writing this book – you clearly define how to be kind but not a weakling, how to be strong without being a tough broad.
    Jo

  • THIS BOOK WILL WAKE YOU UP!

    I’m sorry if you have been cheated on but I’m here to tell you that this book will save your sanity. Buy it now. How do I know? Because I was cheated on and I read just about every other book about cheaters and infidelity that I could get my hands on and this book, hands down (pardon the pun) is the best. It doesn’t pull any punches, but it’s going to help you heal. Packed solid with great advice and wisdom from hard won experience, therapists and lay-people alike need to buy this book and line it up right beside the PhD’s who want to “explore” the reasons for cheating. Tracy lays the blame on the cheater and pulls no punches. Read it. Consider it. Do it. You won’t be disappointed by this read and it will open your eyes to the path to freedom and well-being that is leaving your cheater and building a better life.
    Saveyourself

  • A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN BETRAYED BY A CHEATER

    Leave a Cheater is, by far, the best book I have read for the chump. It is entertaining and well-written. I could not put it down. Schorn is insightful and seemed to describe my situation as though she were in my shoes. This book is empowering and will help you see your cheater for who they are, not who you hope they are, and help you get on with your life without them. Schorn guides you through your crisis with humor and practical advice. 
    Tizme