James Wehr’s Girlfriend Discovered After Death
Influencer James Wehr died in a car crash, taking his new girlfriend Alexis Kramer with him. He had told Kramer he was separated. Which was news to his grieving widow.
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A 27-year-old influencer, James Wehr, died last Sunday speeding in his McClaren race car, returning home from a date with his Hooters girlfriend Alexis Kramer.
Tragic. Especially for his widow.
Wehr was married. And now Emma Wehr is suffering a posthumous D-day. She’s been widowed and chumped simultaneously. The picture above was from a loving Instagram reel she posted about him, probably before she knew he was a FW.
I’d like to tell you this is uncommon, but it’s not. Many people have wound up looking for support on this blog after their partners died unexpectedly.
Heck, I know people this happened to. In one case, back in Texas, it was Mr. CL’s upstairs office tenant. He died in a flood (that happens in Texas… turn around don’t drown…) The dead man’s girlfriend showed up wanting to collect his stuff. And then we got a call from ANOTHER girlfriend who wanted to be let in the apartment, who didn’t know about the first girlfriend. (Awkward. Mr. CL told both of them to get a court order for permission to enter. In the end it was an estranged child who showed up, took a few things of value and left us to clean up the mess.)
In another instance, a coworker of mine went to the hospital to be by her dying father’s bedside and his phone kept ringing from an unknown number. Her mother answered the phone and that’s how the entire grieving family discovered dad’s long-term affair. The dad was unconscious and died shortly thereafter. Again, leaving a big mess for everyone to deal with.
Cheaters must never imagine these scenarios.
Not that anyone wants to contemplate their demise. But if you live in a magical reality, without STDs or discovery, you must never imagine mortality. Of your loved ones finding out in the most horrific way possible about your double life. But I guess if you’re really selfish, why would you care? Chump appliance! Clean up in Aisle 7!
Wehr paid for Lexi’s flight to meet him in person for the first time, according to the family member, who said the pair went to dinner at Nobu and drinks at the Pendry Hotel hours before the fatal crash.
Before the crash Wehr posted an image on his Instagram from the Pendry hotel, followed by a shot of the McLaren in what appeared to be a police stop.
Cops said the supercar was stopped at a red light near Culver Drive and Deerfield Avenue shortly after midnight Sunday. The vehicle accelerated at a high speed once the light turned green and the driver lost control and it slammed into a tree.
The impact caused the car to split apart and catch fire, killing both people inside. Authorities did not say who was driving the car and are still investigating the incident.
Alexis Kramer probably thought she was meeting some hot shot influencer. Probably believed his lies about his marital status. A one month online flirtation, evening fling, that ended fatally. Now her family is grieving.
My CL cynicism is she probably wasn’t Wehr’s only Instagram girlfriend.
I wonder if he sped away from the police stop because he didn’t want to be caught cheating?
What a stupid, sad waste.
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Every year when 9/11 rolls around, I find myself thinking of the unsuspecting widows who found out after their loved one perished that there was an affair partner, secret family, illegitimate children. The affair partners could not claim from the victim compensation fund but the law allowed the children to make a claim and the affair partners lined up for it. I feel sorry for the kids, but imagine the grieving widows. Many of them initially refused to sign off on the fund distribution when they found out. They eventually consented because their own families needed the money. Can you imagine that horror being piled on?
When I read the NY coroner’s office has complete DNA profiles for a number of victims but that there are families who will not share their DNA to find a possible match, I wonder if those families are ones who suffered some kind of abuse from the person. Not everyone who perished was a saint. Losing someone and finding out they were a FW is an extraordinary grief I can’t begin to fathom. I pray for the widows and all families who are hit with this. What a tragedy.
Not to mention ALL THE AFFAIRS after 911 as living firefighters ran to comfort the widows of their fallen firefighter buddies. The crying widows NEEDED THEM.
This had never crossed my mind. The absolute horror of this scenario! Appalling.
When my Cheater was watching the 9/11 coverage on tv, he said “Imagine the ones who got out alive and walked away leaving everyone to think he was dead.” I later realized that he was clueing me in that if given the chance, he would have done that.
What instead happened is that he was a mean cheater who weaseled into a wreckconsillyation where he lived for 5 years then dropped dead. I didnt learn the worst of it all until after he was dead (including a humdinger of a document where he wrote “I never loved my wife”)…so I had the post death shockers but it all happened in slow motion.
Before he died, there was a gal who flew all the way across the country to swoon over him at his military retirement as well as a newer gal (in an active affair) who also came to his retirement. At the event were his parents, me (the wife), kids etc. He must have been pretty terrified that some story would break open at the event. Oddly enough it didnt. It’s funny that the night before I returned home, I insisted that we go to Mass. The whole time there, he looked like he expected a lightening bolt to strike him dead.
I hope that Emma makes out like a bandit in whatever his estate contains. She can maybe sell the remainder of his silly cars, buy a Toyota and live on it for years.
I’ve always wondered if there was anybody who was presumed dead after 9/11 and just walked away. Probably not. That’s more like a book or movie plot than something that happens IRL.
I think.
#nomoretears
Yes, I’m aware of a similar case at the Pentagon as well. Just horrific for a secret to come out upon their death!
At least I knew what my father was before he died. Although I did get a few surprises, namely with how bad his financial situation was. (Didn’t really matter to me because he didn’t leave me his estate.) I already knew he was bad at managing money, but I was surprised by just how many dumb purchases he’d made. I’m glad I didn’t have to handle his estate or clean out his house. He had 5 big storage buildings full of junk on his property.
I asked the executor to go through his house and pick up the p*rn and the bottles because I didn’t want my uncle (his only sibling) and my cousins to see anything like that. And the executor was kind enough to do so.
Klootzak was a Navy officer at the Pentagon that day. I am sure there were quite a few cases. There may have also been some on planes headed off for a “work trip.”
My therapist during the divorce was in her 70’s, living in a 55+ community. During the divorce process, my attorney was nearly 70 and was the son of a judge who rose all the way to the appeal court level.
BOTH warned me about oddball situations and upsetting revelations I might run into. The therapist said there had been some doozies she heard in her office and in her community of people cheating and even dying with a wife and a girlfriend or two that didn’t know about each other. My attorney said the same, noting that if any shocking situations happened, I should email him immediately, and that he or someone on his staff would respond. Being the curious type, I asked, “What sort of situations?” And he outlined this very one. A death and a secret or two come to light. Maybe a really big secret. He knew that my STBX was in poor health, but the end of a life happens other ways too.
For awhile, I churned about whether I’d attend his funeral. What if I was separated? What if the divorce wasn’t final? What if it was final? What if we were still in closeout? His family was very religious and hard to deal with. Undoubtedly, they would take control of the situation and push me aside. They were like that. And what if a girlfriend or two showed up? One of my adult kids said, “No way,” and the other said, “Maybe.”
Now, years later, no, we wouldn’t go. That chapter is closed.
But Emma Wehr. Gosh, that’s cataclysmic. I hope she has reasonable, supportive people around her. That might be one for just a quiet burial with family, but 100% her choice.
The only reason I went to my dad’s funeral was for my mother’s sake. It would have upset her too much if I’d refused to attend. She went too, believe it or not. Maybe she wanted to make sure he was dead.
Otherwise, I would have told the executor to put a stake in him, to make sure he was dead, and let the county bury him. As it was, the funeral director tried to get me to pay for the funeral, and I told him the estate would have to pay for it. He wasn’t very happy about that, but I hadn’t arranged the funeral or signed a contract, so there was nothing he could do about it.
Yes, I get it under the circumstances.
You know, if this was my dead FW, it would be a quick cremation and a quicker sling of the ashes into the wheelie bin for trash pick up. Seriously, I would not sit through a wake and funeral while sitting with this kind of knowledge.
⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️That was priceless
That’s how my friend’s ex boyfriend found out his dad was a long term cheater.
Dad was on his literal deathbed in the hospital when some woman nobody had seen before expected to be let into the room. My friend, her (then boyfriend) ex, and his wife were already there and all the expected family had already shown up.
After he died and they started cleaning out his stuff, they discovered the actual receipts. Not metaphorical ones, real ones. For the jewelry and a bunch of other gifts he’d bought her over the years.
My friend wasn’t all that surprised. The guy was a FW in other areas. The approach her ex took was to not talk about it or acknowledge it and pretend he didn’t see anything.
How awful. And I bet this happens all the time.
Yet another Cheater makes terrible choices, lies to people, creates an unholy mess, damages innocent lives and ….. leaves a devastated Chump to clear up the mess.
LFTT
Yep, business as usual.
My gosh, they had been married for barely more than a year.
I bet he was cheating from the day after the wedding. And probably even before.
“Cheaters must never imagine these scenarios”
I asked my husband whether he seriously believed that he could get away with living his gay double life forever, and his response was “I thought it would all come out after I was dead.”
It’s not that he didn’t imagine the scenario. He just didn’t care.
That’s the real answer: the FWs just don’t care. They probably wouldn’t purposely kick a dog, but the thought of metaphorically kicking the entire extended family in the gut doesn’t give them pause.
Many of them WOULD kick a dog if the dog inconvenienced them in the slightest, though.
FDR’s mistress Lucy Mercer was there when he collapsed but had the decency to clear out before he died an hour later so as not to “cause a scandal.” Nonetheless Eleanor Roosevelt, upon his death, found out that he had resumed the affair with Mercer. So yes, this has happened before.
Oh yes last days of a President. Kennedy too and many other’s. Eleanor went on to greater things and Jackie as well. To live well and with dignity is the best revenge still
Except for that Aristotle thing. Gag.
I get she was likely just trying to assure her children’s safety, but ugh.
WTH was the girlfriend thinking.
“I’m in an unhappy marriage”
“We’ve separated”
The oldest excuses in the book. It would be wise to stay away from anyone divorced for less than two years.
My mum and dad met and got together ”later” than average in the early 70’s and ofc divorce was less common then and he was divorced. After they met and had been on a couple of dates, he invited her to a barbeque at his house (as part of a group) and insisted on showing her his decree absolute because he really liked her and wanted to be crystal clear he was in fact who he said he was, bless him. It had never occurred to her that he was not divorced as he said he was, and she was a sensible, well-traveled woman in her mid-30’s at the time, so people are trusting and get fooled all the time.
22 year olds aren’t known for their wisdom.
Horrible. The good news for those of us who left is that we won’t have to deal with that sort of thing if the ex FW kicks the bucket.
Poor Emma. I can’t imagine how difficult this is for her. She probably was in shock when she wrote all the nice things about her cheating husband. Unfortunately, when someone has been abusive to you and they pass away without other people knowing about it, you usually end up keeping bad thoughts about them to yourself. That’s what happened with me and it sux.
The photo of her and the cheater are yet more proof that “only unattractive women get cheated” on is a myth because she is gorgeous. The cheater is pretty ” mid” in my opinion. I also think (but I could be wrong) that it would have been pretty easy for the new girlfriend to find out that he was not separated from his wife due to the public Instagram account.
Yes, assuming the side piece actually cared. Maybe she figured he was good for some expensive gifts, given the car he was driving.
I agree. I would say that Emma is a bit “out of his league” in terms of looks. I wouldn’t be surprised if he had pursued her aggressively precisely because of this. Unfortunately, some people believe that average-looking men who are with very attractive women are automatically “good guys.” However, you can’t assume that to be true.
Amelia, you are exactly right. I’m not really looks oriented myself, but unfortunately that’s about the first thing people latch onto when you get cheated on. And the spouses are are almost always really attractive, usually moreso than the cheaters.
They never trade up!
All the cheater has to say is he is stil married but unhappy… other cheaters don’t look for proof nor the high road.
the divorce is taking a while but the marriage has been over for years – we’re separated.
Yes, I think the trope of the co-conspirator not knowing is way overrated. I am sorry for this young woman, I wish she had made a different decision that night. I also feel sorry for the wife who will have to deal with lawsuits from the family of the young woman. Such a tragedy all around.
I suppose you’re right…they’ll probably sue his estate. How awful for the widow to have to deal with that.
Reckless man slaughter?..I recall The Family of JFK Jrs wife suing the Kennedys for her death in the plane crash into the ocean. And the then the Ted Kennedy accident with Mary Jo into the water. Sued also…
The husband of a friend of mine, died at the moment a street light pole fell on him as he and his motorcycle were riding under it. Right at that second.
His grieving wife found he had been having an affair with the pastors daughter…pictures in compromising situations he had been in with her. My friend went into isolation after the funeral and told only a few people. Didn’t know what to call the tears. Rage- grief-So horribly confusing. I always pray these cheaters were awful husband’s to their chumps so there is nothing to miss and only relief plus insurance. Thin comfort there.
My father’s boss died in a similar fatal crash. Boss was drunk so his secretary was behind the wheel when they died. This was in 1971.
Karma is a bitch, but it’s a fair bitch. Even if it brings pain and disappointment to other innocent people.
How awful. My sympathy to Ms. Wehr. And to Ms. Kramer’s family.